β€œThere is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.”

I will marry someone who can say that about me, among other things πŸ˜‰

One Step at a Time, Leads to the Extra Mile!

I am what could be described as a person who calls herself an optimist but sees the glass half empty. I go into the day feeling brave and have my hands tremble and my lips quiver when reality actually shows its face. I am somebody who critically analyzes and over analyzes herself just to prove that whatever bad happens is actually something I never deserved. I am the epitome of hopelessness at times and a fort of affirmation, excitement and fortitude at the others. I think and I believe that I am someone who needs to learn it all the hard way. Life certainly throws troubles at us, but I have come to believe that there’s no single thing in this world that could happen to you without any reason. The point is, good or bad, you got to survive through it with as much grace and humility as you can.

We normally go into life, into challenges to get a rush, a high and to get something that excites us, and sure, we do get that, but what we remember at the end of most days are our losses and the pain we caused to our loved ones by not fulfilling their expectations. We lie awake at night remembering the things we couldn’t do, the tasks we failed to accomplish. The end of the day, the reality, is nothing like we could ever hope. The reality is that at the end of the day we get what we never expected, our hopes and dreams turned inside out, washed away.

DESPITE all that, I have come to believe that you need to give things a second chance, (maybe because I actually am an optimist) always keep a hope lit in your heart which encourages you ‘maybe this time’… because when things come apart, even just a little, it all becomes clear, the battle, the prize and what you gotta do to get there. Being a fighter doesn’t make you an underdog, it makes you rise above against all odds.

I am sure many of you must have felt this way at some point in your life, or if you like to believe like me, then you feel like this always. The thing is: just don’t ever lose hope, give yourself a chance, don’t believe that you are wasting your life, know that you are making the best out of what you have, in whatever way you can, that’s enough of not wasting right there. We ought to enjoy these bad phases because these are parts of OUR lives, OUR own personal brand of troubles and happiness which makes us who we are for the better of it, so what if anything is not like what is seemed to be better, we have our own set of betterment, and unique, and that is good, very good actually.

Never try to fool the person in the mirror, BE TRUE to yourself. The present moment is so underrated, it sounds so ordinary and yet we spend so little time in it that it is anything but ordinary. You need to look at the whole picture of your life to feel proud, one view is not enough.Give yourself a break once in a while because trust me, you deserve it πŸ™‚
Don’t laugh as that will probably make you to be considered insane πŸ˜› but SMILE in the face of adversity, show it that you are bigger than it and that you are not just an extra burden on this world, you are somebody who is one of their kind in this world and that you can do things no one could ever even think of. TRUST your instincts!
And BELIEVE that someday, and probably when you least expect it, your world will right itself again, you just gotta hang in there because one step at a time definitely leads to the extra mile πŸ™‚

I’d also like to share this quote from The Adventures of Tintin which usually works for me because one needs to be told that they are not just the extra bundle of flesh like some other person, they are them and that they can do whatever they want:
“There are plenty of others willing to call you a failure. A fool. A loser. A hopeless souse! Don’t you ever say it of yourself. You send out the wrong signal, that is what people pick up. Do you understand? You care about something, you fight for it. You hit a wall, you push through it. There’s something you need to know about failure Tintin; You can never let it defeat you.”

What are we missing? Washington Post’s Experiment.

β€œA man sat at a metro station in Washington DC and started to play the violin; it was a cold January morning. He played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time, since it was rush hour, it was calculated that 1,100 people went through the station, most of them on their way to work.


Three minutes went by, and a middle aged man noticed there was musician playing. He slowed his pace, and stopped for a few seconds, and then hurried up to meet his schedule.

A minute later, the violinist received his first dollar tip: a woman threw the money in the till and without stopping, and continued to walk.

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What kind of woman are you?

It has actually been SO long since I last posted, but I was kinda sent to dark ages, no internet, yes! That still happens in this century in many parts of the world. Anyways, I did some reading recently and while I was reading Mr. Coelho, I came across this classically interesting typology of women as defined by Edda in β€œThe Witch of Portobello”. Thought I’d share the excerpt with all the ladies out there so we can find out what category we fall into.

β€œWe women, when we’re searching for a meaning to our lives or for the path of knowledge, Continue reading

And the Oh! So Courteous Boys

Disclaimer: If you are a steadfast feminist then reading this may not be good for you. Please note that I’m not a supporter of Women’s liberation to an extent that they shall become 100% equal with their societal male counterparts. There are some things that just should not change.

Every time I go somewhere out, ride a bus, stand in queue to get something say maybe lunch or groceries, I see young, good looking, able bodied men displaying rules of such faulty behavior that it is simply rude and disrespectful to the females around them. That courtesy and the gentleness of manners which used to be the most attractive quality of men of all times seems to be just gone. If I were to compile a short list of such occurrences, it can include:

1. The ‘Ladies First’ rule has practically ceased to exist.

2. They don’t hold the door for you anymore.

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